"JAVA JIVE"

05.12.2026

There’s a point in adulthood where you’ve collected enough plot twists to feel basically unshockable.

Major illness? Check. Divorce? Check. Job loss? Check. The slow heartbreak of losing people you love? Check.

You start to believe you’ve developed an emotional callus strong enough to handle whatever life throws at you.

And then somehow, it's the drive-thru that gets you.

I’ve been in a long-term relationship with Starbucks since 2012. I don’t mean “I stop in occasionally if I’m nearby.” I mean almost every day, in the drive-thru, through job losses, divorce, caregiving, COVID, moving, rebuilding my life, and all the regular crises in between.

My order wasn’t glamorous, but it was loyal: one tall chai latte, consistent as sunrise.

In some of my hardest seasons, that daily pull into the line became something I could count on—one small decision made. One small dose of comfort delivered.

It was reassurance from an unlikely place: a global company that didn’t know I existed, handing me the same warm cup anyway. I didn’t need Starbucks to love me back; I just needed it to stay itself while everything else in my life seemed to shift under my feet.

Somewhere along the way, being a Starbucks person became part of my identity. I knew the lingo, the best pastry to order, and yes, I even bought merch I absolutely did not need—because apparently once you join a tribe, there’s no turning back.

But recently—without warning, without a banner, without a ceremonial announcement from the Latte-in-Chief—my chai changed.

Suddenly it tasted sweeter. Artificially sweeter. Which meant I now had to remember to order it “without.” The thing I trusted to stay the same no longer was.

The first time I tried the new version, I noticed it immediately—and that’s saying something. Long COVID stole most of my sense of taste in 2021, so if I can taste something, it’s not subtle. It tasted like hot milk seasoned with regret.

The next time, I did the responsible loyal-customer thing and ordered it without sweetener.

Now it tasted like bland unsweetened tea.

Apparently somewhere between “too sweet” and “tastes like boiled leaves,” my original chai had vanished into the great corporate unknown.

Is this a big deal?

No.

And yes.

Because the older I get, the more I realize adulthood is largely about managing invisible exhaustion. We cling to routines not because we’re weak, but because we’re tired. Every dependable ritual removes one tiny decision from an already overloaded brain.

That was the deal: I consistently gave Starbucks my money, and Starbucks consistently gave me my small cup of joy. I didn’t just buy a drink. I bought the promise that tomorrow would taste like yesterday.

And when that promise disappeared—even in a tiny, absurd way—I was surprised by how genuinely unsettled I felt.

Not devastated. Not ruined. Just... untethered in a way that felt oddly familiar.

Because when life changes abruptly enough times, you start attaching meaning to consistency wherever you can find it. The same tea order. The same grocery store. The same parking spot at the fitness center. Small rituals become the emotional vine we cling to every day.

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There’s also the embarrassing realization that I care this much about a cup of chai in the first place.

But caring is what loyalty is. Whether it’s a relationship, a friendship, or a latte. Loyalty is emotional investment over time.

In the end, this isn’t really about a cup of chai. It’s about trust, routine, and the strange ways we count on ordinary things to steady us so we can endure the harder ones.

Meanwhile, if you need me, I’ll be in my kitchen trying once again to recreate the original recipe at home—and reminding myself not to take it personally every time the Universe hands me another lesson about letting things go.

A barista's well-intentioned attempt at copywriting.